Is Your Way Of Thinking Normal Or Could It Be OCD?
Do you ever question yourself as to why you do the things you do? Do you wonder if other people react the same way in certain situations? Do you tend to obsess or over think things? Do you find yourself so distracted that you can’t do anything else but wait? How do you know if the way you think is normal?
Not everyone handles situations the same way. There are several personality types in each of us that tells us how we would deal with different life situations. We have the driver personality, who can make a decision in a split second. They don’t have to think about it. They just do it. Then you have your analytical personality, who has to think about it, go home to do research, talk to people, think about it some more and then finally make a decision. Next, comes the amiable personality who will do whatever everyone else is doing. They tend to be the follower and are considered people pleasers, and last but not least the expressive personality, who can pretty much make a decision like the driver, but it’s based more on emotion. They wear their emotions on their sleeve, and if they’re excited about something, the whole world knows about it.
Everyone has all four but there is usually one that is more dominate than the others. Driver and analytical types are considered cold people and amiable and expressive are warm people. You can be a driver/expressive or an analytical/amiable, etc. My personality is Expressive/Driver. Which one are you?
I know it drives me crazy when someone doesn’t share in the excitement the way that I do. I could be jumping up and down, and I want someone to jump up and down with me. So it sucks when you have a friend or a significant other who may be just as excited as you, but they show it differently. Don’t you just want to punch them in the face? I really can understand this frustration, but it doesn’t make it any easier. I received an email from one of our Coffee Talkers that wanted me to share her situation on the blog and get everyone’s feedback.
I’m a single divorced mom for many years. I was recently contacted by an old boyfriend through a friend request on Facebook. It’s been over 20 years. I have no idea what’s been going on in his life. I do know for a fact that he got married over ten years ago, but that’s all. I was so excited at the friend request that I had to accept. Even though we didn’t go out for very long, we were crazy for each other. Unfortunately, the timing wasn’t right, and therefore, we broke up.
He recently joined Facebook and I’m the second friend on his account. So I looked at that as a good sign. Since I’ve been out of the dating scene for so long, is it safe to assume that he must be interested considering I’m friend #2 and the only woman? The problem is, I haven’t heard from him since! I’m going crazy! How, after all these years do you contact someone who meant something to you and not follow through? There are no status updates or pictures on his wall, so he hasn’t been active, since he opened the account.
I did Google him and based on the info I found, it looks like he is single. He has his own business doing something that he loves. I think to myself, wow, he looked me up after all these years. It looks like he’s single, so now what? I have no patience for this! Why do men do this? I don’t know how to handle this. If you could post this on your blog, I would be curious to see how other women would react to this situation. I feel like I can’t do anything else because I’m just waiting to hear from him. Am I OCD or just crazy excited?
Thank you so much and I truly love your blog!
Anonymous Coffee Talker
So ladies, how would you handle this situation? Please give your honest opinion as to what she should do.